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Our next book will be Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together by Dean Spade. We will start discussing on August 16th.
We are currently reading Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together by Dean Spade.
Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together
By Dean Spade
- Sunday, August 16 – Introduction + Chapter 1: Dominant Culture’s Scripts Are Still Shaping Our Relationships: Feeling Bad While Things Are Bad, Breaking Ties with Tires Cultural Scripts, Central Lies of the Romance Myth, How Does the Romance Myth Mess Up Our Relationships?, The Truth About Love, Marriage Isn’t Love or Liberation. Pages 1 – 36.
- Sunday, August 23 – Chapter 1: Dominant Culture’s Scripts Are Still Shaping Our Relationships: Scarcity Mentality, Disposability Culture, “What Else Is True?”: Getting Perspective When We’re Grabbed by Cultural Scripts and Autopilot Reactions, Why Bother Doing Emotional Work? What Will This Get Me?, Can People Really Change?, You Are What You Practice. Pages 37 – 76.
- Sunday, August 30 – Chapter 2: Stuck on Autopilot: Swinging between Numbness and Temporary Highs. Pages 77 – 127.
- Sunday, September 6 – Chapter 3: Falling in Love and Losing Your Mind: The Romance Cycle. Pages 128 – 184.
- Sunday, September 13 – Chapter 4: Encountering Fear, and the Courage to Say Yes and No. Pages 185 – 224.
- Sunday, September 20 – Chapter 5: What Are We Fighting About?: Communication and Repair. Pages 225 – 263.
- Sunday, September 27 – Chapter 6: Revolutionary Promiscuity — Getting Free Together: Allowing, Accepting, or Even Liking Our Differences, Generating Our Own Safety and Security, Not All Relationships Are for Everything — Being here for What’s Here. Pages 264 – 293
- Sunday, October 4 – Chapter 6: Revolutionary Promiscuity — Getting Free Together: Being Intentional About Levels of Connection, Jealousy, What We Can Ask of Others When We Are Jealous, Accepting Change + Conclusion. Pages 294 – 326.
*some dates may change due to availability
Books, movies, & essays we’ve previously discussed:
Disability Intimacy: Essays on Love, Care, and Desire
Edited by Alice Wong
Embodied Activism: Engaging the Body to Cultivate Liberation, Justice, and Authentic Connection
by Rae Johnson, PhD
The Viral Underclass:
The Human Toll When Inequality and Disease Collide
by Steven W. Thrasher
Mutual Aid: Building Solidarity During this Crisis (and the Next)
by Dean Spade
http://www.deanspade.net/mutual-aid-building-solidarity-during-this-crisis-and-the-next/
Study Guide created by Radical in Progress
Starship Troopers (1997)
Directed by Paul Verhoeven
Let’s Become Fungal! Mycelium Teachings and the Arts
by Yasmine Ostendorf-Rodríguez, Rommy González (Illustrator)
Abolish Rent: How Tenants Can End the Housing Crisis
by Tracy Rosenthal and Leonardo Vilchis
Links to interviews about Abolish Rent
They Live (1988)
Directed by John Carpenter
Let This Radicalize You: Organizing and the Revolution of Reciprocal Care
by Kelly Hayes and Mariame Kaba
Discussion Guide: Discussion questions and further resources, curated by Rachael Zafer
**Workbook and discussion guide from https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/1922-let-this-radicalize-you
The Serviceberry: Abundance and Reciprocity in the Natural World
by Robin Wall Kimmerer
Health Communism
by Beatrice Adler-Bolton and Artie Vierkant
Health Communism with Beatrice Adler-Bolton on Upstream: https://sites.libsyn.com/435210/health-communism-with-beatrice-adler-bolton-in-conversation
The Dispossessed
by Ursula K. Le Guin
A Bug’s Life (1998)
Directed by John Lasseter and Andrew Stanton
Practicing New Worlds:
Abolition and Emergent Strategies
by Andrea J. Ritchie
Neptune Frost (2021)
co-directed by Saul Williams and Anisia Uzeyman
- “The Master’s Tools Will Never Dismantle the Master’s House” by Audre Lorde.
- “Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power” by Audre Lorde
- “Choosing the Margin as a Space of Radical Openness” by bell hooks
The Future Is Disabled: Prophecies, Love Notes and Mourning Songs
by Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
Black Marxism: The Making of the Black Radical Tradition
by Cedric J. Robinson
Conflict is Not Abuse
by Sarah Schulman
Elite Capture: How the Powerful Took Over Identity Politics (And Everything Else)
by Olúfẹ́mi O. Táíwò
Abolition. Feminism. Now.
by Angela Y. Davis, Gina Dent, Erica R. Meiners, and Beth E. Richie
Futures of Black Radicalism
edited by Gaye Theresa Johnson and Alex Lubin
Possible future reads:
Lean on Me: A Politics of Radical Care by Lynne Segal
We Will Not Cancel Us or Pleasure Activism by adrienne maree brown
Outgrowing Modernity: navigating complexity, complicity, and collapse with accountability and compassion by Vanessa Machado de Oliveira
All This Safety Is Killing Us: Health Justice Beyond Prisons, Police, and Borders -Abolitionist Frameworks and Practices from Clinicians, Organizers, and Incarcerated Activists. Foreword by Rachel Herzing Edited by Ronica Mukerjee and Carlos Martinez
It Was Vulgar and It Was Beautiful: How AIDS Activists Used Art to Fight a Pandemic by Jack Lowery
The Ugly Laws: Disability in Public by Susan M. Schweik
A Short History of Trans Misogyny by Jules Gill-Peterson
Feminist, Queer, Cri by Alison Kafer
Less is More: How Degrowth Will Save the World by Jason Hickel
Unbuild Walls: Why Immigrant Justice Needs Abolition by Silky Shah
Empire of Normality: Neurodiversity and Capitalism by Robert Chapman
Matriarchal Societies: Studies on Indigenous Cultures Across the Globe by Heide Göttner-Abendroth
Blood for the Machine: the Origin of the Rebellion Against Big Tech by Brian Merchant
Mutual Aid LA Network 
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